DEALING WITH YOUR PAST

DEALING WITH YOUR PAST
One of the ingredients necessary [to be] happy is to make sere we deal with the issues of our past. The truth is the past isn't the past until it ha been dealt with properly, because our past efforts today in a negative manner. Therefore, it is still the present.
Every person has some kind of baggage. Common examples of baggage are hunts that never have been dealt with, un-forgiveness, wrong behaviors we were raised around, and quirks in our prsonalities that have never been fixed.
We need to honestly look at some of our less than stellar qualities and ask this question, “Could I be this way because of something in my past that I haven't dealt with?”
In order to deal with your past, you first of all have to be willing to be blatantly honest with yourself. We have a tendency to see the flaws in [others] and associate them with how messed up their family is or past was but sometimes we are blind to our own issues.
The bad things in our pasts that we haven't dealt with create personality problems, emotional issues, relational difficulties.
Forgiveness
All of us have deep hurts from our past. Without forgiveness, our hurts become festering wounds that never heal and cause our personalities to malform around them. The simple act of forgiveness can set you free from your past.
Finally, we must take responsibility for our own problems. As we realize that our parents may have modeled a wrong behavior to us we must forgive them.
When we do this and take responsibility for it our baggage drops off of us and our past truly becomes the past with no negative influence on or lives today.